Spring Conference: Borderline Personality Disorder

Holistic Treatment of Borderline Personality Disorder:

An Exploration of the Latest Psychological, Spiritual,
Family, and Medical Considerations

Friday, March 9, 2011

Hillcrest Hospital Auditorium

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With a lifetime prevalence rate of almost 6%, Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) is an important public health issue that impacts countless lives throughout Texas. This one-day conference will provide an overview of current research about BPD as well as supporting evidence-based treatments for this severe mental illness.

We are honored to have Karyn Hall, PhD join us as our keynote speaker. Dr. Hall is the director of the Dialectical Behavior Therapy Center in Houston, Texas, and is an adviser, consultant, and trainer with Treatment Implementation Collaborative, LLC. Trained as a child psychologist, she specializes in the prevention and treatment of emotional disorders.

She is also the co-author of The Power of Validation: Arming Your Child Against Bullying, Peer Pressure, Addiction, Self-Harm, and Out-of-Control Emotions (New Harbinger, 2011).

The conference is open to mental health professionals, individuals diagnosed with BPD, their families, clergy, and students.

Licensed mental health professionals will may apply to receive 7 continuing education credit hours.


Mental Health Professionals: $99
($79 early registration until February 1)
Includes 7 CEUs

Individuals diagnosed with BPD, family members, students, and clergy. $59
($39 early registration until February 1)

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7:15-7:50 am       Registration

8:00-9:00 am       Session 1
Let’s Talk about Elephants: The Power of Validation for the Individual with BPD. Karyn Hall, PhD

9:00-10:00 am        Session 2
Helping Patients Explore Spiritual Meaning in the Midst of Emptiness. Wes Eades, PhD

10:00-10:15 am        Break

10:15-11:15 am        Session 3
Family Education Benefits Everyone: A Parent’s Journey. Carl Dunn

11:15-12:15 pm        Session 4
What You Need to Know about Dialectical Behavior Therapy. Alina Gorgorian, PhD

12:15-1:30 pm        Lunch (provided)

1:30-2:30 pm        Session 5
My BPD Recovery Path: Healing With Heart. Teresa DiGregorio

2:30-3:30 pm        Session 6
Providing Important Information: Psychoeducation for BPD and Self-Injury. Kathleen Geiger, LPC

3:30-3:45 pm        Break

3:45-4:30 pm        Panel Discussion

4:30 pm        Evaluations

The conference fee includes morning coffee, lunch, and educational materials.

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Waco Partnership for Psychological and Spiritual Care
Hillcrest Baptist Medical Center Department of Pastoral Care
Hope for BPD
Clearview Women’s Center

Power of Now – Summary of Chapter 10

This entry marks the end of our study of Ekhart Tolle’s The Power of Now.  He returns to the central them of surrender…

Chapter 10 – The Meaning of Surrender

  • Acceptance of the Now
    • Surrender is the simple but profound wisdom of yielding to rather than opposing the flow of life.”
    • Surrender is not the same thing as resignation.  One can surrender to the reality of a situation and still take steps to create a different path.
    • If you find your life situation unsatisfactory or even intolerable, it is only by surrendering first that you can break the unconscious resistance pattern that perpetuates that situation.”
    • Tolle uses the term surrendered action” to describe the process of letting go of judgement while seeking change.
    • The concept of “motivation” is very important in psychology.  Tolle challenges the assumption that acceptance will lead to a lack of motivation.  He observes that we can experience a more effective motivation when we surrender (wme: This is what I would call the difference between motivation via anxiety and motivation via vision).
  • From Mind Energy to Spiritual Energy
    • Letting go of resistance begins with acknowledging the resistance.
    • Be present to resistance as it arises, and notice how Mind seeks to label and judge it.
    • As we acknowledge resistance we become freer to choose our actions rather being reactive.
    • Resistance is weakness and fear masquerading as strength. What the ego sees as weakness is your Being in its purity, innocence, and power. What it sees as strength is weakness.”  ( 1 Corinthians 1:27  But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise; God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong.)
  • Surrender in Personal Relationships
    • It is true that only an unconscious person will try to use or manipulate others, but it is equally true that only an unconscious person can be used and manipulated. If you resist or fight unconscious behavior in others, you become unconscious yourself. But surrender doesn’t mean that you allow yourself to be used by unconscious people. Not at all. It is perfectly possible to say “no” firmly and clearly to a person or to walk away from a situation and be in a state of complete inner nonresistance at the same time.
    • Surrender facilitates meaningful action.  There are times when action is helpful, even called for.  However, when we are acting from a place of surrender, we are not judging or fighting, we are simply acting in response to our values.
    • The ego believes that in your resistance lies your strength, whereas in truth resistance cuts you off from Being, the only place of true power. Resistance is weakness and fear masquerading as strength. What the ego sees as weakness is your Being in its purity, innocence, and power.
  • Transforming Illness into Enlightenment
    • Illness is an unavoidable aspect of life.  It gains power over us to the degree that we allow it to define us in terms of past and future.
    • When we surrender to illness as a part of our reality in the Now, illness can become a part of our enlightenment.
    • Illness is not the problem. You are the problem—as long as the egoic mind is in control. When you are ill or disabled, do not feel that you have failed in some way, do not feel guilty. Do not blame life for treating you unfairly, but do not blame yourself either. All that is resistance. If you have a major illness, use it for enlightenment. Anything “bad” that happens in your life—use it for enlightenment. Withdraw time from the illness. Do not give it any past or future. Let it force you into intense present-moment awareness—and see what happens.
  • When Disaster Strikes
    • For a majority of people, some sort of disaster, or “limit-situation,” is required to break through the hard shell of the ego. (wme: Two paths toward transformation – suffering and intention.)
    • When disaster strikes, the path towards peace requires surrender.
  • Transforming Suffering into Peace
    • The practice of surrender begins with mindful surrender to each moment – saying “yes” to both what is and what isn’t.
    • If we miss that moment of surrender, then we generate suffering through resistance.  This becomes the second opportunity.  We can choose to be present to the suffering without resistance or judgement.
    • Forget about surrender for a moment. When your pain is deep, all talk of surrender will probably seem futile and meaningless anyway. When your pain is deep, you will likely have a strong urge to escape from it rather than surrender to it. You don’t want to feel what you feel. What could be more normal? But there is no escape, no way out. There are many pseudo escapes—work, drink, drugs, anger, projection, suppression, and so on—but they don’t free you from the pain.
    • When there is no way out, there is still always a way through. So don’t turn away from the pain. Face it. Feel it fully. Feel it—don’t think about it! Express it if necessary, but don’t create a script in your mind around it. Give all your attention to the feeling, not to the person, event, or situation that seems to have caused it. Don’t let the mind use the pain to create a victim identity for yourself out of it. Feeling sorry for yourself and telling others your story will keep you stuck in suffering. Since it is impossible to get away from the feeling, the only possibility of change is to move into it; otherwise, nothing will shift.
    • At this point, surrender is happening.
  • The Way of the Cross
    • Tolle asserts that the common understanding of the Way of Cross is misguided.  He says that it is not the suffering that is redemptive, but that suffering creates the opportunity for surrender.
    • The way of the cross is a complete reversal. It means that the worst thing in your life, your cross, turns into the best thing that ever happened to you, by forcing you into surrender, into “death,” forcing you to become as nothing, to become as God—because God, too, is no-thing.
    • At this time, as far as the unconscious majority of humans is concerned, the way of the cross is still the only way. They will only awaken through further suffering, and enlightenment as a collective phenomenon will be predictably preceded by vast upheavals.
  • The Power to Choose
    • Tolle notes that we commonly misuse the word “choose,” as in someone chooses a dysfunctional relational.  He insists that choice requires consciousness, and that our impulse towards suffering is due to a lack of consciousness… to an identification with mind.
    • Choice begins the moment you disidentify from the mind and its conditioned patterns, the moment you become present. Until you reach that point, you are unconscious, spiritually speaking. This means that you are compelled to think, feel, and act in certain ways according to the conditioning of your mind. That is why Jesus said: “Forgive them, for they know not what they do.
    • Nobody chooses dysfunction, conflict, pain. Nobody chooses insanity. They happen because there is not enough presence in you to dissolve the past, not enough light to dispel the darkness. You are not fully here. You have not quite woken up yet. In the meantime, the conditioned mind is running your life.
    • Tolle closes this book with the following exchange with the interviewer:
      • When you surrender to what is and so become fully present, the past ceases to have any power. You do not need it anymore. Presence is the key. The Now is the key.
      • How will I know when I have surrendered?
      • When you no longer need to ask the question.

Power of Now – Summary of Chapter 9

A consistent theme in all great spiritual traditions is the struggle the human has brain with accepting that there might be something better than happiness….

Chapter 9 – Beyond Happiness and Unhappiness there is Peace

  • The Higher Good Beyond Good and Bad
    • Accepting things as they are is a first step in experiencing peace.
    • Move beyond the dualism of good and bad, and assume that every circumstance, even the painful ones, can move us toward peace.
    • It seems that most people need to experience a great deal of suffering before they will relinquish resistance and accept—before they will forgive. As soon as they do, one of the greatest miracles happens: the awakening of Being-consciousness through what appears as evil, the transmutation of suffering into inner peace.
  • The End of Your Life Drama
    • Most “bad” things in life are created by the ego’s need for control.
    • We can create drama when we battle with other egos, and we can create drama on our own, battling with our own ego.
    • When you live in complete acceptance of what is, that is the end of all drama in your life. Nobody can even have an argument with you, no matter how hard he or she tries.
    • WME – For the conscious person, competing points of view are simply information.
    • Most people are in love with their particular life drama. Their story is their identity. The ego runs their life. They have their whole sense of self invested in it. Even their—usually unsuccessful—search for an answer, a solution, or for healing becomes part of it. What they fear and resist most is the end of their drama. As long as they are their mind, what they fear and resist most is their own awakening. When you live in complete acceptance of what is, that is the end of all drama in your life. Nobody can even have an argument with you, no matter how hard he or she tries. You cannot have an argument with a fully conscious person. An argument implies identification with your mind and a mental position, as well as resistance and reaction to the other person’s position. The result is that the polar opposites become mutually energized. These are the mechanics of unconsciousness. You can still make your point clearly and firmly, but there will be no reactive force behind it, no defense or attack. So it won’t turn into drama. When you are fully conscious, you cease to be in conflict. “No one who is at one with himself can even conceive of conflict,” states A Course in Miracles. This refers not only to conflict with other people but more fundamentally to conflict within you, which ceases when there is no longer any clash between the demands and expectations of your mind and what is.
  • Impermanence and the Cycle of Life
    • Although physical pain can be a reality, all suffering is created by the ego’s resistance to accepting things as they are.
    • There are cycles of up and down in all of life.  It is the ego that defines such things as good and bad.
    • The down cycle is absolutely essential for spiritual realization. You must have failed deeply on some level or experienced some deep loss or pain to be drawn to the spiritual dimension. Or perhaps your very success became empty and meaningless and so turned out to be failure. Failure lies concealed in every success, and success in every failure. In this world, which is to say on the level of form, everybody “fails” sooner or later, of course, and every achievement eventually comes to naught. All forms are impermanent.
    • All the great spiritual traditions speak to the importance of not becoming attached to the cycles of life, and of defining the goodness or badness of life in terms of these cycles.
    • When we begin to move with the cycles of life, we find an “ease” to life.
    • The happiness that is derived from some secondary source is never very deep. It is only a pale reflection of the joy of Being, the vibrant peace that you find within as you enter the state of nonresistance. Being takes you beyond the polar opposites of the mind and frees you from dependency on form. Even if everything were to collapse and crumble all around you, you would still feel a deep inner core of peace. You may not be happy, but you will be at peace.
  • Using and Relinquishing Negativity
    • The ego uses negativity to try and manipulate reality.
    • Tolle says that humans are the only life form on earth that knows negativity, and we use it to pollute our environment.
    • When we sense negativity arising, we can choose to be present and “wake up,” and let go of the mind games.
    • Tolle encourages us to be mindful of the little irritations that crop up in life.  He notes that when we examine these irritations we will discover they are manufactured by the mind, and serve no useful purpose (I would say that some if not many irritations are indeed useful.  They might point to important information about something that needs tending.  For instance, that irritating sound I hear when I drive my car might be signaling a problem with the car that can be repaired.)
    • When you begin to accept what is, then every moment becomes the best possible moment.
  • The Nature of Compassion
    • Some believe that detachment can lead to disconnection from others.  Tolle insists that the opposite is true.  When we are free of expectations, then we become free to move towards others with genuine compassion.
    • True compassion goes beyond empathy or sympathy. It does not happen until sadness merges with joy, the joy of Being beyond form, the joy of eternal life.
  • Toward a Different Order of Reality
    • This is a difficult section to summarize.  Tolle acknowledges that there is deep suffering in the world.  For example, there are large numbers of people who are starving.  He recognizes that it is valuable to address these practical issues, but insists that we will never make headway unless we recognize that the core issue is the general state of unconsciousness  He refers to several spiritual teachers who refer to the salvation of reality as some form of universal consciousness.