Thanks to all who attended this challenging discussion. We experienced together how difficult it can be for the mind (small self) to wrap itself around the possibility that we create much more of our pain than is necessary.
Meeting 2 – Chapter 2: Consciousness: The Way Out of Pain
|Sarah Cynthia Sylvia Stout
Would not take the garbage out!
She’d scour the pots and scrape the pans,
Candy the yams and spice the hams,
And though her daddy would scream and shout,
She simply would not take the garbage out.
And so it piled up to the ceilings:
Coffee grounds, potato peelings,
Brown bananas, rotten peas,
Chunks of sour cottage cheese.
It filled the can, it covered the floor,
It cracked the window and blocked the door
With bacon rinds and chicken bones,
Drippy ends of ice cream cones,
Prune pits, peach pits, orange peel,
Gloppy glumps of cold oatmeal,
Pizza crusts and withered greens,
Soggy beans and tangerines,
Crusts of black burned buttered toast,
Gristly bits of beefy roasts. . .
The garbage rolled on down the hall,
It raised the roof, it broke the wall. . .
Greasy napkins, cookie crumbs,
Globs of gooey bubble gum,
|Cellophane from green baloney,
Rubbery blubbery macaroni,
Peanut butter, caked and dry,
Curdled milk and crusts of pie,
Moldy melons, dried-up mustard,
Eggshells mixed with lemon custard,
Cold french fried and rancid meat,
Yellow lumps of Cream of Wheat.
At last the garbage reached so high
That it finally touched the sky.
And all the neighbors moved away,
And none of her friends would come to play.
And finally Sarah Cynthia Stout said,
“OK, I’ll take the garbage out!”
But then, of course, it was too late. . .
The garbage reached across the state,
From New York to the Golden Gate.
And there, in the garbage she did hate,
Poor Sarah met an awful fate,
That I cannot now relate
Because the hour is much too late.
But children, remember Sarah Stout
And always take the garbage out!
Shel Silverstein, 1974
Review of Chapter One: You are not your Mind
- If you buy in to your mind’s perception of reality, then you are doomed.
- Behind the chattering mind lies pure consciousness.
- You have the ability to put your mind in to neutral, and allow pure consciousness to emerge.
- Emotion, which is a product of the mind, adds to the fog which obscures consciousness.
- Core idea: You can eliminate pain by remaining conscious of the Now.
- Main points
- You can let go of past emotional pain.
- The physical body carries memories of pain which the mind (ss) identifies with.
- The ss believes that you ARE your pain, so if you let go of your pain, you’ll no longer exist.
- Instinct fear and psychological fear are not the same.
- The ss does not trust the wholeness of the AS, so it continually draws us towards victimhood.
- Create No More Pain in the Present
- Emotional pain that we feel is the result of the mind not being Present.
- Past: guilt, regret, bitterness
- Future: stress and anxiety
- My comment: He comes close to suggesting that the AS does not experience pain
- I’m curious about what he would say about grief and “righteous anger”
- Still is still a distraction from his main point, that the Now is infected by the past and present.
- Past Pain: Dissolving the Pain-Body
- Our bodies, which includes our brains, carry the memory of pain.
- The degree to which that pain continues to shape us is determined by how we choose to be present to the Now.
- Developing awareness with the ss pain-body
- Watch the emotions in your body.
- Feel them.
- Don’t label or judge what you feel.
- Allow the emotions to be there.
- Ego Identification with the Pain-Body
- The ss, or ego, believes that you are your pain.
- The ss wants you to identify pain with Self
- I am a victim of abuse.
- I grew up in an abusive home.
- The Origin of Fear
- Instinctive fear and psychological fear
- Instinctive fear, which is real fear, is a response to an actual threat.
- Psychological fear is fear of things that may happen in the future.
- (I would add that spiritual fear is anxiety over non-being)
- Stress and anxiety are psychological fears.
- Mindfulness of emotion helps a person let go of anxiety.
- The Ego’s Search for Wholeness
- the ss struggles to acknowledge the wholeness of the AS
- the ss says, “I can’t be okay until…”
- the AS says, “I am becoming more whole.”
Task: Becoming a Witness
- “Sustained conscious attention severs the link between the pain-body and your thought processes and brings about the process of transmutation.”
- Tolle notes that being the presence of a highly conscious person also fosters this process.
- fostering conversation between your ss and your AS
- developing curiosity rather than judgment.